When there’s a problem, I tend to ask why.
Why did that relationship end so badly? Why did my client fire me? Why can’t I be more productive?
Why is seeking an explanation. Why is me wanting to understand what went wrong, what I did wrong, and how I can do better.
Why is also the wrong question.
You see, I’m bad at explanations, bad at answering the why. Well, to be more accurate, I’m bad at translating explanations into solutions.
Instead of dwelling on the explanations of problems, my time and effort are better utilized with implementing a solution.
But what solution? If I don’t understand what went wrong, how can I tackle the problem?
Try. Just assume whatever solution you have at the moment is the best one there is.
I’ve found trying something quickly to solve a problem is usually better than taking time to fully grasping the situation and slowly rolling out a solution.
Because there rarely is one complete solution for a problem. Problems tend to be complex, way more complex than we imagine. For instance, waking up early isn’t simply a matter of setting my alarm at a certain time. I practically have to uproot my worldview 180 degrees and set it firmly in an opposite heading in order wake up at 6am every morning.
It’s better to try many solutions with variety than it is to try one thing over and over. The mind keeps changing. Either embrace that or risk suffering.